10 Oct How I Knew When I Was at My Natural Weight
A lot of my clients ask how they will know when they reach their natural weight.
I remember what it felt like when I took the first step towards becoming an intuitive eater. I remember thinking that when I come to my natural weight as an intuitive eater I should weigh 123 pounds. Why this number? I can’t exactly pinpoint that but what I’ve realized is that your natural weight has absolutely nothing to do with a number. Which is why I always ask people to stop measuring or weighing themselves when they begin their coaching with me.
Reaching your natural weight is a gradual process that unfolds as you begin to heal your emotional traumas and your relationship to food. Over time your body will begin to resemble the new state of your mind and soul.
This is why I discourage people from weighing themselves.
When you are focused on a number—whether it be a scale, the size of your pants, or on a measuring tape—you are likely ignoring the signals your body is telling you about what it needs to be healthy because you’re so focused on how to punish your body into becoming what you want it to be.
For me, I know I’m at my natural weight based on how I feel in my body.
When I was stuck in my eating disorder and diet mentality I never felt whole. I never felt good enough. Some days I felt light as a feather while other days I felt super heavy in my body. I was obsessive about calorie counting, the way I looked, the amount I was exercising, and how I could continue to improve myself aesthetically. I sacrificed everything and anything to focus on my weight.
In order to allow myself to come to my natural weight I had to let go of all of the preconceived ideas about what I should look like. I got rid of those “skinny” clothes. I stopped attaching my worth to these external factors. I stepped off of the scale and stepped into my power.
Since I have been consistently intuitively eating I feel balanced in my body. I rarely experience bloating. I feel happy. I feel free to do what I would like to do without a second thought about if I’m too fat to go out and have fun or worry about if there will be tempting food around. This feeling isn’t stuck to a particular number because my body goes through natural changes depending on the season, time of the month, and other natural factors.
If you’re at your natural weight you:
- feel good in your body
- feel free from food (no more rules or restrictions)
- don’t eat out of habit, emotion, or deprivation
- have more free time to think about things that truly matter to you instead of being consumed with diet mentality thoughts
- listen to your body
- eat when you are hungry and stop when you are satisfied
- truly enjoy eating
- eat foods that allow you to thrive