27 Aug 25 Reflections In My 25th Year – 365 Days of Unbecoming
Birthdays are a beautiful time to celebrate because it’s the anniversary of when your unique soul chose to come to Earth and live out the contracts you made. Many of us, myself included, get completely side-tracked once we get here and start to take on other people’s identities and perceptions due to conditioning which pull us out of alignment with what we’re meant to do here.
A few days ago, at exactly 3:36AM I turned 25. It’s funny because when I was a late teen I thought at this point in my life I would be married, potentially traveling the world, and living happily ever after. As I turned 25 and this wasn’t my reality, I laughed, it made me wonder how I got to where I am, why, and how I can align more deeply with my soul’s truth. This year I’m committing to letting go of my conditioning and intentionally connecting to my truth every.single.day. to fulfill my contracts.
Doing this process will look completely different for everyone because everyone works in a different way. With that being said, you can join in on this fun process of coming more into alignment with your truth by committing to this daily practice for the next 365 days. Secondly, at the beginning of each day repeat the mantra “I am in alignment with my true self and purpose.” From there it will be intrinsically unique to you how you want to listen to inner guidance and act on the inspiration you’ve received. If you would like, make a list like I did below that examines and highlights the truths you know about your spirit.
Personally, I know this will be a great endeavour. I will need to challenge my thoughts and beliefs and spend more time coming back to my roots, so to speak. Here are 25 reflections I will be considering on this journey:
1. Embracing my non-linear mindset
Most of the world works in a linear way. For example, you get a job and continue working hard in this one career for the stability and benefits, whereas, I choose a job, learn it, and move on when I feel I’ve “mastered” what I need from that position. It’s okay to work in this way and embrace the many passions and interests I have.
2. Let go of the expectations of friends, family, society, and myself
This point relates to the first. It’s important for me to remember I don’t work the way others do and I shouldn’t hold myself to such expectations.
“There is freedom waiting for you,
On the breezes of the sky,
And you ask “What if I fall?”
Oh but my darling,
What if you fly?”
― Erin Hanson
3. Happily ever after is not found, it’s a state within us
4. Recognize the signs and take inventory
Signs are constantly being revealed to us. We simply have to open our perception to see them.
When I’m doing something that I’m supposed to, I receive more energy and I feel excited about it. This is because the Universe is trying to encourage me. When I feel drained of energy, experiencing writer’s block, sickness, or anything else less than sparkly I need to remember to take this as a sign to tune in to where I’m not living according to my path. Then I need to let go of the things that aren’t serving me and ask the Universe for support and opportunities that interest me.
5. Let go of planning and strategizing
Show up in the world in a more passive way, instead of planning and strategizing I will let life come to me. Let go of schedules, discipline, and needing to be consistent. Scheduling is not natural to me, it was taught to me. Since I have let go of this incessant need to be organized I actually have way more time in my days because I’m living in the flow and not wasting hours planning out every minute detail of every day.
For me, I’ve learned that manifesting works when I’m general as opposed to specific. I tucked away my vision board and instead I’m focusing on visualizing the feeling of abundance and happiness. I trust that the Universe knows what will do this for me.
7. Embrace my natural rhythms
Sleep when I want to sleep, eat when I want to eat, and work out when I want to workout. I already have the eating part of this down pat, but the other two will take some commitment to letting go of the control around them. When I do the things I love I don’t need as much sleep, when I wake up at 3:30AM with energy I will honour this burst of inspiration instead of tossing and turning, eventually lugging myself out of bed feeling groggy and irritable.
8. Speak the guts language
“Do I enjoy this smoothie or that smoothie?” “Do I want to write this blog?” “Do I want to teach this class?”
YES or NO.
I feel responses in my body as I’m pulled towards something that lights me up. All I’m left to do is to follow through with honouring these feelings.
9. Live according to the virtue of who I am
It’s a much more powerful way to live from a place where the rules externally don’t impact your decisions. When I heal this aspect of myself it will project onto others from my energy field, inevitably healing others. This life is meant to be fun and light.
10. Get in touch with my CHARISMA
I rarely express this side of myself. I’m not sure when it happened, but somewhere along the way I lost touch with this side of me. Getting lit up as many hours of the day, days of the week, and months in the year as possible sets me free and aligns me with the right people, places, and things on this journey called life.
11. Embrace my natural qualities
Many things come naturally to me, especially the art of self-care which I will continue to honour.
12. Make a positive impact on this world and all of its inhabitants
13. Ask the Universe to show me where I’m holding myself back
Of course I have blind spots about my behaviours that aren’t serving me, but I’m open and willing to observe my unhelpful behaviour.
14. Let go of deadlines
I don’t work well under pressure. The old adage, “chaotic thought only creates chaotic action,” is all too accurate for me. Instead of reacting to pressure from the outside or from myself, I need to sit and simply observe as I allow feelings, life, and everything to flow through me.
15. Embrace my ever-changing mind
Keep decisions in the moment instead of committing to plans in the future, mark it as a possibility, and then choose as the time comes.
16. Be YOU
Life isn’t a quest of who you can become but rather allowing who you are to shine through you. You already are. You are light.
17. Give myself the alone time I need
This is something I committed to last year by letting go of work that I need to physically show up for everyday, but occasionally I still find myself guilting myself into “showing up” for things when I don’t really want to. Going to the Vipassana meditation retreat in February has helped me in this process.
18. Let go of future tripping and be in the present moment more often
Our strength is in trusting the Universe. Mindfulness is such a great technique to practice this awareness. When I catch myself planning or future tripping, instead occupy myself with something else. You can get to where you need to go without worrying.
Invite relationships into my life that are supportive. Create healthy boundaries when necessary.
20. Be open to adventure
21. Meditate more
Meditation is the best tool I’ve discovered to open awareness and to live peacefully. It’s a tool that can be used to experience many things. I would like to spend more time listening to the Universe. Remember, when you ask the Universe to provide for you, you’re creating a dialogue so you also need to listen to the counsel you seek.
23. Let go of needing to know my purpose
As we grow up it’s a hot topic in society to identify your purpose. What will you do? Be a teacher, a doctor, a mom, a nurse. This mindset suggests that we are built to do a select few things in our lives. For some this may be true (written in the stars) but for me this is not so. I don’t have one specific purpose, my job is not my purpose, my relationship is not my purpose, the fact that I don’t know my purpose/s is a gift, contrary to popular belief. Not knowing, and not feeling the pressure to need to know, allows me to move freely through each phase of my life to complete all of the different things I came here to do. It will all be revealed to me in the end.
This is a daily practice that grounds me, especially barefoot gratitude walks.
This past year has been relatively stable yet, heavy for me so here’s to a new year. A year of unbecoming.
What will this year look like for you if you honour your true nature?